Love Is Not A Fairytale

It's dawning on me that a relationship takes a great deal of courage and effort to work out. I've heard this piece of advice often enough, and I've also agreed often enough. But the effect of it has never been felt so strongly upon, until this moment. It didn't come as a smack on the face, I'm quite sure. And I'd always known the equation consciously. But it was too real an effect to not feel anything. And I know I couldn't ignore it, it's something I had to swallow.

I adored our love, really. Love that wasn't selfish, which was why it made us both tired to a certaint extent, for all the giving. It's a dramatic claim now that I'd think about it, really. Giving should come willingly, unreluctantly, right from the heart, without requirement, without pre-requisites, and without asking for something in return. Only does it then qualify being sincere & genuine. At least that's what most believe. But I guess we're all human, and we're humane enough to feel short-changed at some point of time.

It's funny how people say, love will pull you through all challenges, through thick and thin. I find that very vague sometimes. Because love itself, calls for many definitions and interpretations in the eyes of different individuals. And love alone, isn't good enough to keep a relationship sustainable. It has to come with more than that - patience, tolerance, persistence, compromising, understanding, maturity, consistency, the right mentality, the right timing.

I don't know how things will eventually turn out to be. But I do know that I want us both to be happy, however the outcome may be.

" Love is patient, love is kind,
Love knows neither envy nor jealousy,
Love is not forward and self-assertive,
Nor is it boastful and conceited...
Love is 'til death do us part...
Love, in my own words, is not a fairytale... "