My Version of Happily-Ever-After

I know for a fact that Valentine's long over-due.
I, for one, didn't had a good Valentine experience this year. But I'm staying positive that tomorrow will be a better day. Haha. But Valentine's over-rated anyway. It's so commercialised that it's almost a sin if you're attached or coupled and yet not celebrating it. I'm pondering & reflecting on whether this represents a good or bad side of human nature. That we're somehow so in-synched with this whole trend thing, someone started it, commercialised it, and suddenly it's a trend by book of laws that we should all follow. How amazing.

Today, it got me thinking after reading Kim Ong's blog (I have her in one of my blogs list I follow, that's if you're interested). It got me thinking about what defines happily-ever-after in my terms. In this particular entry on Lovemedo, I'm extremely agreeable on what contestant Huay Sean thought. That she believes in destiny and happily-ever-after for her is when you hold hands when you're both 80. Simplistic, yet reflective. The fact that I thought about that too, made me very fond and close to what her voice within resembles about true/real love in this current age.

So here I am, speculating and imagining my own version of happily-ever-after. I've certainly and definitely outgrown the Cinderella version of it. I used to look forward to the big 'W' of my own someday ('W' - Wedding, that is) so much that I imagined myself taking care of the very details with absolute care and attention! But now that I'm in a real relationship for years myself, I think I've tend to eventually realise what calls for a better celebration than the big great wedding itself. It's still a dream as yet, but with less dream-y anticipation note in it. Either I've grown realistic, or I've grown old. You choose. Haha.

Here's what have changed in my years of growing old (or realistic, depending on which u chose earlier). I don't look forward to retirement travel plans to Europe anymore (I think this was somehow affected by the global recession stress that all over the world is experiencing recently), I only want us still holding hands to walk an evening walk in the evening breeze in the taman area that we'll be staying at. I don't look forward to getting married by age 26/27 anymore, I only want to make sure I get a partner that can last me a lifetime. I don't look forward to having surprises for every celebration or occasion (birthdays, anniversaries, valentines, etc) anymore, I only want my partner to remember that I have a habit of drinking hot Milo kosong every morning, and I don't take veges like brinjals & lady's fingers. These would do. Simple and everyday things like these would do.

Now, 60-80 years down the road from today, if I'm still maintaining this blog (right, as if the technology advancement of this age will stay stagnant), I'll share my achievables or non-achievables with you. That's if, I'm still having a vivid memory, and not suffering from Alzheimer already. Haha!